My attachment shit.

This is what my therapy has shifted to focus on lately:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_in_adults

I'm mostly the dismissive-avoidant with some of the fearful-avoidant stuff.  Here's an email I got from my mom a few days ago and my response:

HER:

You'd better get back to Chinese......Listening to a billionaire 
> > investor (Jim Rogers) who says the best thing you can do for your 
> > children is to teach them Mandarin Chinese.  He moved his family 
> > there 40 years ago because he saw the righting on the wall.  It 
> > might be the only way YOU will ever get out from under the 
> > tremendous debt you and I have occurred.  I love you, do some 
> > thinking on this for yourself and your future.

ME:

I have already said that Chinese doesn't interest me right now.  My 
> debt and academic future isn't important to me right now either.  
> What I am concerned with right now is being ok and doing what makes 
> me happy.  I appreciate the concern but telling me what I should 
> be doing only serves to make things worse and is the exactly the 
> kind of phrase that put me in my situation.
HER:
OUCH



REALLY?  That's her response.  Wow.  I was so pissed off when I got that I just yelled, "OH GO FUCK YOURSELF."  Shit sucks.  It's her fault that I suck at relationships.  All these years she has patronized me, made me feel weak, and talked about how mature she is.  How wrong all that is!  So now I get to go about fixing all this while I'm already dealing with chronic depression.  So excited!